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At 19 years old, Beryl Ewing's daughter,
Suzanne, had everything to look forward to. Then suddenly she was
gone, Searching for answers, Beryl turned to craft to help her cope...
Nineteen-years-old, full of life and full of fun,
with a smile as bright as her future - that was my eldest, Suzanne.
She'd always had lots of friends. In October
1999 she'd just got her first boyfriend and she was studying a childcare
course while working with me part-time at Royal Mail in Chester where we
live.
One day, Suzanne was getting ready for an overtime
shift at the mail centre when she came to me and said, "Mum, I'm going to
faint." And then she died, right in front of me.
I phoned the ambulance and they told me to do CPR
but that was it, my beautiful girl had gone. There was no warning.
No signs. She hadn't been unwell.
Can you imagine seeing your own child die in front
of you. If I hadn't been there I would never have believed how quick
it was.
Suzanne's sister, Kathryn, was there too because
it was school half-term holidays. She was just 15 at the time.
The post-mortem concluded that Suzanne had died of
natural causes - but I knew there was nothing natural about the way she had
died. A second post-mortem revealed a heart condition called
'Arrhythmogenic Right Ventricular Cardiomyopathy (ARVC).
ARVC is a sudden adult death condition - a faulty
heart muscle had affected the rhythm of Suzanne's heart and it stopped
working.
As I waited for answers, I turned to the charity
CRY (Cardiac Risk in the Young). I had so many questions. One
minute Suzanne was there and the next, she had gone. It was so sudden.
So final.
CRY raises awareness of cardiac health in the
young and helped me to understand what had happened to my daughter.
For years afterwards, I bought their printed
Christmas cards as my way of supporting them.
About five years ago, I was out shopping with my
friend, Debbie, who way buying papercraft bits and pieces for her daughter
when she said she was surprised that I wasn't into cardmaking. I've
always been into crafts - knitting, crochet, cross stitch - as I've never
been one for sitting doing nothing.
It's too time-consuming," I said, at the time
thinking how pretty the stuff was she was buying. So I gave cardmaking
a go - and that was it, I loved if of course and now I can't stop!
Soon after I phoned CRY to tell them I'd like to
make cards for them to raise money. They sent me some CRY stickers,
which I put on every card.
Since then I've made all sorts of designs, with
punches, peel-offs and so on. but at the end of last year it snowed
heavily in Chester, for the first time in years. So I went out early
in the morning and took photos of the city in snow.
Since then I've been printing off my photos,
making borders and inserts and they've been selling like hotcakes,
especially to people who lived in Chester bur are now living abroad.
I sell a lot of cards to my colleagues at the
Royal Mail and to my friends and family. Last year I raised about £250
for CRY.
It shows that everybody is thinking about Suzanne.
Christmas can be a sad time - October is always hard - but cardmaking gives
me a boost. I think, "Right, it's time to start making the cards."
It keeps me busy and helps me such a lot.
Unfortunately, we know now that Suzanne's
condition was hereditary, so the family goes to London regularly to be
tested.
Suzanne and Kathryn's father died of a brain
tumour when he was just 38. The girls were four and one at the time.
When you lose your husband so young, you think that nothing that bad can
every happen again. But it did.
Friends say I've had a tough life but I like to
keep positive. Even as a young widow with two small children I didn't
dwell. I knitted toys and clothes for the girls and kept myself busy.
For me, craft is therapy and a trip to the craft shop can lift my spirits.
A few years after my first husband died, I married
David, who became father to the girls and helped Kathryn and I through
losing Suzanne.
Today, my wonderful daughter Kathryn, now 26,
lives in Queensland, Australia, with her partner, Sonny and their beautiful
son - Kieran, 10 months. I miss her so much but we Skype often and
David and I have just come back from visiting them. They're so happy
over there and I am for them.
With Kathryn so far away I have more time on my
hands. As always it's to craft that I turn to keep busy, making cards
in memory of my beautiful Suzanne.
Every week in the UK, 12 apparently fit and
healthy young people die from undiagnosed heart conditions.
CRY (Cardiac Risk in the Young) helps to
educate and raise awareness of these conditions.
For more information or to donate
visit www.c-r-y.org.uk or call 01737
363 222 or email cry@c-r-y.org.uk
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