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The family album brims with pictures of a bouncing
baby whose beaming smile would stay with him into adulthood and who by his
mother's admission 'grew into his ears'.
But today the only pictures being added are by his
friends on the gonetoosoon website - the shocking suddenness of his death
still as baffling today as it was in June.
For Simon Cullum's mother Marilyn Cullum, the
deeply felt messages posted on the site bring some comfort while a question
mark hangs over her own diagnosis with possibly the same potentially fatal
heart defect.
Car-mad Simon, who lived with his family in
Lowestoft Road, Gorleston, was 29 when on a day which was otherwise
unremarkable his heart stopped.
The clean-living warehouseman who said no to
drink, drugs and cigarettes, had chatted with his mother about what was for
tea and then gone to his bedroom to play computer games.
Wondering why he hadn't taken the car to keep an
appointment his mother went upstairs and found him slumped on the floor.
She praised the heroic efforts of paramedics but
she knew Simon was gone. For her husband John and Simon's brother
Robert, 25, the death has been equally hard to fathom.
Simon is among at least eight apparently fit and
healthy young people to die every week of undiagnosed heart conditions,
according the CRY charity - Cardiac Risk in the Young - which is supporting
Mrs Cullum with advice and counselling.
Determined that something good should come of the
tragedy Mrs Cullum is adding her voice to the charity's plea for a national
screening programme.
Although no heart defect was found in Simon many
of the test that uncover problems can only be carried out on live hearts.
His death certificate records Sudden Adult Death Syndrome (SADS) as the
cause of death.
Mrs Cullum said that routine screening of young
people using the quick and non-invasive ECG test could save lives and
takes only two to three minutes. Although defects are not always
picked up and some people need re-testing Mrs Cullum said even if one life
were saved it would be worth it.
The charity, whose patrons include Little Britain
star David Walliams and former England cricket captain Ian Botham, paid for
extra tests to be carried out on Simon's heart - the results of which could
have helped other families, but meant he had to be buried without it.
Simon was well-known within the car cruising
community, earning the nickname The Daddy. A pin board in his bedroom
features a gallery of cars he had owned, his favourite being a gold Orion
known as The Onion. His hobby and social circle was focused o his
cars, showing off his latest modifications to mats along Great Yarmouth
seafront, where he was a regular cruiser.
Simon's death meant a round of tests for the
extended family, with only Mrs Cullum showing inconclusive diagnosis of Long
QT - one of the most common causes of unexpected death in the under 35's.
"It makes us aware that life is short and
uncertain. There are people of our age dying but you do not expect it
in one so young. Life is too short to bear grudges. It makes you
think that today could be your last," she said.
To raise funds for and awareness of CRY a coffee
morning with stalls, refreshments and raffle is being held in Simon's memory
at St Peter's Roman Catholic Church in Lowestoft Road on Saturday 26 from
10.30am. Entry is 50p including tea and a biscuit.
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