The
idea behind GUYfest came
from two friends with
whom he had worked as a
volunteer at the Vibe
Youth Centre in Didcot,
organising monthly rock
gigs.
From
modest beginnings,
GUYfest soon snowballed
into a day-long event at
Cornerstone, the town’s
new arts centre, on
Saturday August 22nd
2009.
The
day began officially at
noon with a procession
of motorbikes riding
into the town from the
village where we live,
bright red GUYfest
pennants fluttering from
their sides.
The
bikers – all close
mates, three of whom
were with Guy on the
night he died - roared
up to the entrance to
Cornerstone, revving
their engines as loudly
as they could to make
sure we got off to a
very noisy and
conspicuous start!
The
bikers then joined
friends, family and
onlookers on the
forecourt, where the MP
for Wantage and Didcot,
Ed Vaizey, performed the
official opening.
We’d
fixed up a big red and
white ribbon and bow
(the colours of Guy’s
Yamaha motorbike and
leathers) across the
main entrance and Ed
managed to snip the
ribbon first time with
great aplomb!
From
then on, more than 400
people came in and out
during the day to
remember Guy, have some
fun and raise some money
for CRY and the Child
Bereavement Charity.

A
contingent of his mates
settled themselves into
the X-Box room to play
games projected onto two
big screens on the wall
and chill out on some
comfy sofas borrowed
from the Vibe youth
centre. There was a
fantastic motorbike
display on Cornerstone’s
forecourt, with bike
safety videos and safety
awareness sessions.

There
was non-stop music in
Cornerstone’s cafe/bar –
Couture@Cornerstone –
where Guy’s friends took
it in turns to play
20-minute “bar gigs”,
including an
extraordinary young man
who produced some
terrific rap music using
just his voicebox and
the microphone!
Guy
was everywhere.
A
giant exhibition stand
and two pop-up banner
stands featuring lots of
pictures of him made a
colourful backdrop to
the activities.
We
hung up 20 giant posters
around the venue – Guy
hugging his girlfriends,
playing the drums,
larking about with his
mates, posing with
members of one of his
favourite bands.
There
were some simple
portraits too, lovely
pictures taken by his
friend Henry as part of
his photography course
at school.
In a
side room, St John
Ambulance volunteers did
a roaring trade in
getting people to try
their hand at some basic
first aid techniques –
until one of Guy’s mates
decided the armless
resuscitation torso need
a quick comfort break
and propped him up in
the bar for a drink!
Upstairs in the dance
studio, we set up a
“quiet room” with a
small exhibition of some
of Guy’s favourite
things – the hand drum
and hookah pipe he
bartered for in Tunis on
a family cruise, a
MacDonalds bag of
chicken nuggets (he
virtually lived on
them), his set of Jack
Daniels shot glasses
(sneaked into my
shopping basket on a
trip to Tesco), the
snare drum from his
performance kit, the mug
he used at Sainsbury’s
Petrol Station where he
had a part-time job,
suitably inscribed with
his name in big bold
letters.
And
there were more picture
boards – the ones we’d
had made for his funeral
the year before – and
mementoes from his
childhood and life such
as his X-Box, his
leaving trophy from
primary school, the iPod
and mobile phone which
never left his pockets,
and his moped helmet and
jacket.
We
set up a big round table
in the middle of the
room and covered it with
posters and flyers
together with newspaper
cuttings - reports of
the night he died in a
motorbike accident, the
inquest which concluded
he had suffered a heart
arrhythmia, and the
subsequent campaign we
ran to get improvements
in the way 999 operators
respond to motorbike
accidents. We placed
his book of remembrance
on the table for people
to sign and write
messages. We had comfy
seats for people to sit
and swap memories and
two tables carried
literature and posters
from CRY and the Child
Bereavement Charity to
help people understand
what had happened and to
point to sources of
support.
Alongside
all this there was a
“GUYfeast” in the cafe
–a special menu
featuring Guy’s
favourite foods such as
chips, burgers and
lasagne, sticky toffee
pudding and trifle!
Throughout the day,
people wandered in and
out, sat and chatted and
enjoyed the music,
bought raffle tickets
and put in bids for
various biker
accessories in the
Silent Auction. The star
auction prize – a day
filming with BBC TV’s
Top Gear programme plus
a ride round the track
with the Stig and
tickets to the show –
proved a big draw and
people came from Oxford
and beyond for a chance
to win it.
The
afternoon’s activities
came to an end at around
5.30 p.m. when we drew
the raffle of more than
30 raffle prizes
generously donated by
local businesses and
individuals.
Special items included a
watercolour painted by
Guy’s 84-year-old
grandfather, a set of
jewellery made
especially for the event
by a friend at work, and
merchandise and tickets
for gigs donated by
Guy’s favourite rock
bands.
But
the day wasn’t over –
as we began clearing
away the exhibitions,
the evening rock gig got
underway in the
auditorium, the stage
dominated by a massive
GUYfest banner and the
space lit up by a light
show and lasers. Motion
in Colour – a band Guy
knew well through
working at the Vibe –
kicked off the gig,
including performing
“Close Your Eyes” a
haunting and moving song
written specially for
Guy by singer Adam
Barnes.
They
were followed by Oxford
band, Phantom Theory
and then London hip hop
singer and martial
artist, Mr Shaodow, took
to the stage for an
equally energetic
performance. The gig
finished with a terrific
drum and bass
performance by DJ Marcus
Taylor from Wantage – a
close friend of Guy’s
who has now set up his
own record label.
And
just to make it extra
special we gave everyone
GUYfest balloons and a
“goody bag” filled with
his favourite Haribo
sweets, chocolate,
badges and a souvenir
postcard.
By 11
p.m. we were all
completely exhausted –
it had been an
incredibly long day
after a long year of
careful planning and
organisation involving
many people. But we were
really happy that the
day had gone so well. It
was everything we’d
hoped it would be – full
of fun and laughter, as
well as some tears, a
lovely party atmosphere
and a wonderful tribute
to the special young man
who was only with us for
17 years but who made
such an impact on so
many lives.
My
darling Guy – I really
hope you enjoyed it too.
Mum xxx
GUYfest Photographs by
Peter Greenland