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Preston's mayor today looked back on one of the
busiest and saddest years of her life. Mayor of Preston Christine
Abram, her husband Norman and their family were a couple of days into their
Tenerife break when tragedy struck.
Stuart Cave, 33, partner of their youngest
daughter Ruth, died suddenly in bed on New Year's Eve morning.
His death, from a massive heart attack on the
final day of the year, came without warning and left both families
devastated.
And 12 months on, they are still coming to terms
with what happened and Ruth, 29, is re-building her life.
Councillor Abram, says: "It's very hard for her
and, as a mum, I find it hard because I can't make it better for my
daughter.
"It's not like when they're kids and not feeling
well - I can't make her better.
"But we hope this year will be the year she moves
on.
"We're a very close family, we've got some very
close friends and that's what's got us through."
Among the tears and trauma, the family made it
their mission to do other than to dwell.
A few months after Stuart's death, Councillor
Abram was made mayor of the city, with Ruth her mayoress.
The family then set about throwing themselves into
raising money for charity, most notably for the Preston Women's Refuge and
Cardiac Risk in the Young (CRY).
Now, just over half way through her stint, the
mayor has met the stars at the Radio One Big Weekend, attended the Queen's
garden party, been a catwalk queen herself, and attended countless civic
events.
Everything is logged in a journal Councillor Abram
keeps on her laptop computer which she plans to look back on when she steps
down in May.
She says: "It's helped us with being so busy and
it's helped us as a family, the fact we're putting so much into the CRY
charity.
"It has helped, definitely, but I'm finding it
very difficult now.
"When you go to certain events it's a bit
emotional but you've got to carry on.
"Lots of things give you flashbacks and you
re-live it. There's a lot of times you don't feel like doing this but
you've got to keep going.
"We've been driven on by it and if the money we
raise helps to save one young life, it's all been worthwhile.
"Mostly, you're only the mayor once and it's your
opportunity to stamp your mark on it and use the office of mayor to
highlight these charities and raise their profile.
"It's also about keeping the fun in fund-raising."
With more than 200 engagements already under her
belt, the mayor is looking forward to continuing the fundraising drive into
2008.
A host of high-profile events are planned
including a Stars In Their Eyes night and a charity cricket match.
March will bring a trip to Almelo in Holland to
celebrate 60 years of the two places being twinned.
And the mayoral year will be crowned with a
glamorous ball at the Guild Hall with guests dressed to impress for a
Hollywood-themed night.
But first, the Abram's enjoyed a well-earned rest
over Christmas when they stepped out of the spotlight for a few days, spent
time with their family at home and raised a glass to Stuart.
She says: "We'll never get over it and we'll never
forget him."
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