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There's not a minute goes by when Catherine
Hartlebury and her husband Alan don't feel the intense pain of losing their
precious son.
Alan, 46, still finds himself looking at the door
when he hears it open, expecting fun-loving Andy to walk in at any minute.
Each time he has to face the renewed heartache of
his loss.
Catherine, 40, says she can't stop the habit of
putting six plates out as she dishes up the evening meal.
His VW Golf, his pride and joy, remains outside
the home because it was such a part of him they can't bear to part with it.
A large picture of Everton-supporting Andrew
dominates the immaculate living room at the Hartlebury family home in
Coniston Road, Dalton.
His girlfriend Charlotte Martin still visits the
family regularly.
The cheeky-faced young man looks so happy, so full
of life, yet he was struck down in his prime by heart failure as he played
football, at the age of 21. The cause? A virus he didn't even
know he had, which triggered the heart condition myocarditis which suddenly
kills at least eight young adults a week.
Sadly the disease often goes unnoticed until it's
too late but can be prevented if spotted in time.
According to leading charity CRY (Cardiac Risk in
the Young) unexplained 'sudden death', where there is no cause identified,
is frequently classified as due to natural causes in the UK. Experts
believe that the majority of these deaths are due to Sudden Death Syndrome,
or myocarditis.
Until the law is changed and coroners have to
refer heart attack cases on to specialists, they cannot find the true
statistics.
Speaking out for the first time about their loss,
it's clear to see how difficult it is for them both to revisit that fateful
evening.
Mr Hartlebury said: "Andrew was sat in the living
room eating tea when we came in. He was in an exceptional good mood
and left about 8pm.
"About an hour later the police were here and told
us that Andrew had had a serious accident. I assumed it must have been
in his car. It didn't even occur to me it would have been at
football."
He remembers arriving at Furness General Hospital
and seeing a team of doctors and nurses working on his son.
He added: "It was just all so surreal, and over in
seconds.
"To be honest I think he had gone already, on the
pitch.
"It was an absolute nightmare and I wouldn't wish
it on any parent.
"It wasn't until the inquest that we found out he
had died because of heart failure.
"It was a total shock."
Andrew died on January 30 after collapsing during
a match for his works team, Jackson's Timber, on January 30.
The couple still have three other children living
at home, Sarah, 18, Alison, 15 and 12-year-old Stephen. Mrs Hartlebury
says their other son idolised his big brother and shared a room with him.
He has been hit extremely hard by his death, as
have his sisters.
Catherine says it's not only close family who have
been left devastated by his death, as Andrew had so many close friends who
are also finding it hard to come to terms with the loss. She added:
"It's just hard to understand why? Andrew was a healthy, young man.
He didn't smoke or do drugs. He liked a pint or two like any young lad
his age.
"More parents need to be made aware of this
illness. Healthy young people don't just die. There should be
tests that can be done as a matter of routine, just so it can be
eliminated."
Alan said: "It is just such a waste of a young
life. Someone needs to do something to raise awareness of this
illness."
"We still have our of days and some days are
harder than others."
RAISING AWARENESS
Dr Sanjay Sharma is a leading London
cardiologist and works closely with CRY to raise awareness of sudden death
in the young.
He said myocarditis is inflammation of heart
muscle.
It is usually due to a viral illness and
accounts for one per cent of all sudden cardiac deaths.
He said: "In young adults up to 20 per cent of
all cases of sudden cardiac death may be due to myocarditis.
"Myocarditis accounts for seven per cent of all
exercise related sudden cardiac deaths."
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