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Becky Feltham, 27, had found the man of her dreams
- but one night he went to bed and never woke up. Later, she
discovered that he was a victim of the rare Sudden Arrhythmic Death Syndrome.
After attending a friend's wedding on a perfect
summer's day, PR consultant Becky Feltham and her partner Pete Reynolds sat
in the pub planning their future.
"He kissed me and said he wanted us to get
married, have kids and grow old together," she recalls.
"Neither of us could stop smiling."
The couple, who'd known each other for years, grew
up in the same area of Bristol and Becky gradually realised that she really
fancied the good-looking telephone engineer.
"He was tall, dark and handsome, but nothing
happened between us until he moved in with a good friend of mine," says
Becky.
"We started to hang out together and we'd chat for
hours. Pete was super-fit and went to the gym every day - he was even
a black belt in tae kwon do. I was so happy when we started talking
about having a family. We were both in our mid-twenties and believed
we had plenty of time.
"Let's have two boys," he said.
Pete was close to his brother Andrew and he wanted
sons who'd have the same kind of relationship.
But it wasn't to be. A couple of months
later, on 13 October 2004, Pete phoned Becky after a visit to the gym to
tell her he wasn't well.
He said: "I'm feeling dizzy and I'm having a heart
flutter," she recalls.
"I told him to go home and have something to eat."
At 10pm I called to see if he was feeling better and he said he was going to
get some sleep.
"Goodnight, babe," I said, then put the phone
down. That was the last time we spoke.
The next morning, Pete's brother Andrew contacted
Becky to say he hadn't arrived at work and wasn't answering his phone.
"Instantly, I knew something was terribly wrong,"
she says.
"I raced over to Pete's house, but it was too
late. I didn't see his body, but he was found lying on the floor,
white and lifeless. The paramedics could do nothing, so the coroner
took him away. I was completely hysterical. How could he be
gone? He was only 27 and so full of life.
Tests revealed that Pete had died of SADS (Sudden
Arrhythymic Death Syndrome) due to an undetected arrhythmia of the heart.
He was cremated on 26 November 2004 and Becky is still coming to terms with
living without him.
"I didn't have a chance to say goodbye," she
says.
"I'm having bereavement counselling, but I need to
do something positive.
"After his death, a couple of Pete's friends
admitted that he'd been complaining of heart palpitations for months.
He hadn't said anything to me or had it checked out - and there might be
someone reading this who has the same symptoms.
"That's why I'm organising a ball on 11 March to
raise funds for the charity Cardiac Risk in the Young (CRY). If Pete
had been screened and his heart defect treated, he'd still be with us
today."
The facts about SADS
Sudden Arrhythmic Death Syndrome (SADS) occurs
when a young, apparently fit and healthy person dies unexpectedly from
cardiac arrest. Each week in the UK, at least eight young people lose
their lives suddenly from undetected heart conditions.
Cardiac Risk in the Young (CRY) is a national
charity campaigning for more awareness of life-threatening cardiac
abnormalities in young people, offering support to bereaved families and
promoting screening of those at risk.
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