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Lee Wilson was a happy and apparently healthy
19-year-old. Then, one night, the teenager went to bed and never woke
up. Experts estimate that at least eight young people a week die from
Sudden Adult Death Syndrome. Chrissy Harris went to meet the people
left to pick up the pieces....
"I thought he was mucking around", says mum Carole
Wilson, as she describes the moment she discovered her son dead in his bed.
"I'd gone to wake him and I couldn't get any
reaction. I thought he was joking but then I realised he was cold to
the touch.
"I remember saying to myself, 'I think he's dead,'
but I couldn't take it in.
"I went on auto-pilot and started thinking of
really stupid things like how I'd better call his boss because he was
supposed to be at work."
More than two years after that dreadful day
Carole, aged 46, still half-expects Lee to walk through the door.
Lee, a sound and lighting technician at the
Theatre Royal, died in his sleep, probably from Sudden Adult Death Syndrome
(SADS), also known as Sudden Arrhythmia Death Syndrome, a condition similar
to cot death.
"It's an umbrella term used to describe many
different causes of fatal cardiac arrest in people.
But it's all people such as Carole have to explain
why their loved one is gone.
"It's such a broad thing and it's hard to take in
because there were no symptoms," said Carole, who lives in Mount Gold with
husband Steve, 48 and sons Wayne, 18 and Sam, 14.
"Lee was never ill. We had absolutely no
warning.
"Even if we had, there was nothing we could have
done.
"My husband and I have both said to each other,
'Why didn't we go and check on him?' But why would we? He'd just
gone to bed like any other night."
SADS covers a broad range of heart conditions,
many of which can lie undetected for years.
Often there are no symptoms, but experts say in
some cases people can experience dizziness or fainting spells.
In addition, some of the cardiac abnormalities
associated with SADS can be hereditary.
How can you help?
Friends of Lee Wilson are running the London
Marathon next month in his memory.
Alistir Ellis, from St Jude's and Casey Knight,
from Prince Rock, will be raising money for a charity called Cardiac Risk in
the Young (CRY), which raises awareness of SADS and contributes to research.
Alistair said: "We wanted to do it as a
thank-you for the support the charity has given Steve and Carole.
"Lee's death was such a shock to everybody."
To sponsor the pair visit
www.just-giving.com/aliellis
or
www.justgiving.com/caseyknight
You can also send a cheque, payable to Cardiac
Risk in the Young, to 20 Faringdon Road, St Judes, Plymouth PL4 9EP.
Susie's Murray is fighting to get this crucial
information out and talked about to help prevent more families through the
pain she has endured.
Susie's 21-year-old daughter Nadine Bennett was
found dead in her bed by her father, Alan.
The "brilliant, bright and loving" youngster had
been talking to her boyfriend on her mobile phone when she died.
"When someone's been poorly for a long time, you
can come to terms with the fact they've gone, said Susie, 47, who lives near
Gunnislake.
"When this happens, the shock leaves you
absolutely reeling."
Looking back, Susie says there were problems to
suggest Nadine could have had a heart problem.
The Duchy College student, who lived in
Callington, had complained of feeling tired and had a couple of 'funny
turns' where she felt faint.
Susie became concerned because her sister Dawn had
died suddenly when the was just 33, apparently from SADS - and Susie had had
a cardiac arrest when she was 23.
Tragically, just when the alarm bells had started
ringing, Nadine died.
"You go through the guilt, the what-ifs; that's
part of grieving," said Susie.
"The truth is, no one can change what happened:
but if we can reach someone out there - someone whose husband, son or
daughter has been showing symptoms - then Nadine's death won't have been in
vain.
Susie, and her son Alex, 12, have each had an
internal defibrillator fitted to help control their hear rates and perhaps
sae their lives.
Susie is also hoping to set up a support group in
the Gunnislake/Callington area to help families who have lost loved ones and
also care for those people living with heart conditions.
"We need to raise awareness about this," she said.
The staff at Derriford Hospital have been really
supportive and there's a lot of good work going on there.
"Things are changing, but it's a slow process."
Susie said in the meantime the family was trying
to get by without Nadine.
It's been five years since she died. We
still talk about her every day," she said.
"You never get over the loss; you just learn to
live with it.
"We decided together, though, that we could either
let Nadine's death destroy us or we could let it make us stronger and try to
prevent other people going through the same thing."
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