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"I've been working on it since January, but it
hasn't been a chore at all. With every brick, I've been thinking about
what it is for me and how much it means to me.
"I can't do much else for Nathan now, this is all
I can do. His friends don't like going to the cemetery, but they can
come here to remember him instead."
Builder Philip Butler constructed the stand at
Porthill Park Cricket Club with his own hands as a lasting tribute to his
son Nathan, who died suddenly from an undiagnosed heart condition, aged 16.
Mr Butler had a constant stream of helpers in the
form of family members, including Nathan's brother Josh, aged 15, and his
late son's many friends.
He said: "it's been hard for Josh because he
looked up to Nathan and has always followed in his footsteps as a keen
footballer and cricketer. But he's been very strong.
"Nathan's friends have been great with him and
have really taken him under their wing.
"They're at the age now when they could go out on
their own, but they include him in everything they do and often come round
to our house to play poker instead.
"His friends are now leaving college, having 18th
birthdays, and passing their driving tests. It is little things like
that that remind you what Nathan should have been doing.
"Living with the fact that he has died doesn't get
any easier, but we can cope more now. When it first happened, I
thought I would never get over it.
"It's particularly hard at birthdays and
Christmas, but we're such a close family that there's always somebody on the
end of the phone."
Cricket legend Sir Ian Botham OBE officially
opened the stand yesterday in front of hundreds of club members, family and
friends.
The former England captain said: "It's very sad
what happened to Nathan. It's a shame we are here for sad reasons, but
this family has turned a tragedy around into something positive.
"I'm so impressed with what they and the club have
done."
Nathan's mother Angela, aged 48, contacted Sir Ian
in his capacity as honorary president of the charity Cardiac Risk in the
Young (CRY), which supports families affected by tragedies such as Nathan's.
She was shocked when she received a reply in April
saying he would be happy to attending an unveiling - and her surprise turned
to panic when he suggested yesterday.
"I had got tickets to see the Sound of Music and
the stand was only half finished. "So we sold the tickets and
everybody worked full pelt to get the stand finished.
"They were here from seven in the morning until 11
at night. Everybody's been fantastic - they've really shown their
support.
"I said to Nathan this morning, 'For God's sake
keep the rain off!' and he managed it! All the lads here were his
friends from primary school and they were like brothers. They don't
remember a time without him."
Mr Butler, aged 46, of Hassam Parade, Wolstanton,
said he was thrilled by Sir Ian's involvement as he had been a role model
for Nathan, who read the star's autobiography at the age of 10.
"Like Nathan, Botham was an all-rounder with a big
character ," he said. "He loves life and is really famous for his
antics off the field.
"He's been brilliant. I was a bit
apprehensive at first, wondering if he would be aloof. But he's
lovely, very down to earth, and he puts you at ease."
Nathan was studying music technology at
Stoke-on-Trent Sixth Form College and hoped t go on to work for Signal
Radio.
As well as presenting Porthill Parka at
Staffordshire at cricket, he was a football referee and lifeguard and also
worked as a DJ at weddings and parties.
He was nicknamed Trigger, after the comic
character in Only Fools and Horses, because of his ability to make people
laugh.
Nathan was found collapsed on his bedroom floor by
his mother when she returned from work on February 22, 2006.
She immediately called an ambulance, but
paramedics were unable to revive him.
An inquest ruled that he probably died from
hypertrophic cardiomyopathy, caused by muscles thickening around his heart
which restricted the blood flow.
Almost 1,00 people packed in St Wulstan's Church
for his funeral. Since the tragedy, Nathan's family, friends and
former team-mates have raised more than £17,000 in his memory, which has
been split between the cricket club and CRY.
The family is also campaigning for youngsters to
be screened for the hereditary defect, as happens in Italy and France.
Tests showed Mr butler could be at risk and will need further examination,
while Josh is screened every six months.
Mt Butler said: "When I found out the gene had
come from my side of the family, I just wished it had affected me rather
than Nathan. I've had my life, but Nathan had just started his."
Sir Ian backed CRY's campaign to get all young
people screened for the condition.
He said: "This sort of tragedy should not
happening. Instead of spending £14 million teaching kids how to
behave, which should be done at home anyway, we should spend it on buses to
go round schools testing pupils. To me that's just common sense."
Next year, the family hope to raise another £2,000
to build a bridge from the pavilion to the stand.
Youngsters die every week from disorders
Sudden Cardiac Death is an umbrella terms used
for the many different causes of cardiac arrest in young people.
Experts estimate that at least eight young
people die suddenly each week in the UK of cardiac abnormalities - sudden
death syndrome, or sudden cardiac death.
The majority of young sudden cardiac deaths are
due to inherited forms of heart muscle disorder and irregular heart beat.
Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy is the most common
of these conditions. Sports youngsters stress their heart the most.
If they have an underlying cardiac abnormality they are more likely to be at
risk.
Sport itself doe not lead to cardiac arrest,
but it can act as a trigger for a young person by exacerbating an undetected
condition.
The organisation Cardiac Risk in the Young
(CRY) raises awareness of the symptoms of cardiac abnormalities and
conditions which can lead to sudden cardiac death, while emphasising what
can be done to help young people who have been diagnosed as having a cardiac
abnormality.
Conditions which, if undetected, can lead to
sudden cardiac death include Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy (HCM),
Arrhythmogenic Right Ventricular Cardiomyopathy (ARVC), Coronary Artery
Disease (CAD), Restrictive Cardiomyopathy (RCM) and Myocarditis.
As well as Sir Ian CRY patrons include Olympic
rower Sir Steven Redgrave CBE, rugby union star Rob Andrews MBE, and tennis
player Jeremy Bates.
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